#NF《BRAN-NEW ! + Discover The Secrets Of Attraction & How To Sharpen Your Relationship-Building Skills》Leil Lowndes- HOW TO CREATE CHEMISTRY WITH ANYONE: 75 Ways to Spark It Fast & Make It Last
This interesting New York Times Bestseller in paperback edition on Relationship-Building skills is a bran-new book wrapped with protective book-wrapper. The original new book is sold at price RM72.24. Now here Only at RM19. Love is one of the most fundamental human needs, but the chemistry of love and attraction is fickle. One person can make your heart race with just a glance, while another just makes you yawn. In her latest book, How to Create Chemistry with Anyone, communications expert and bestselling author Leil Lowndes unravels the mystery of human attraction and shows readers how to create and sustain chemistry with practically anyone, from the initial spark to "happily ever after." Chemistry affects nearly every relationship, but few people understand it. ☞ How does it work? Why does it happen? ☞ Why do you feel an instant attraction to one person and not another? ☞ And how can you use it to find love that lasts forever? Come to discover THE SECRETS OF ATTRACTION from the international bestselling author of "How to Make Anyone Fall In Love With You". With her ability to deliver cutting edge information in a lighthearted style, communications expert Leil Lowndes has made a career of teaching the secrets of successful interaction. The secrets of attraction have long eluded us, but neuroscientists have finally cracked the formula. Now communications guru Leil Lowndes reveals all with her 75 ways to spark long-lasting chemistry - anywhere, anytime and with anyone. Learn how to: ● Turn heads and set pulses racing ● Get a date without even asking ● Have a first date that sizzles ● Get the guy or girl you want ● Keep the chemistry crackling long-term Packed with simple tips and techniques, “How to Create Chemistry with Anyone” will show you what to do - and what not to do - to find and keep love. In this book, based on the latest findings in cognitive science, she shows readers how to spark that elusive feeling of chemistry with almost anyone—and sustain it when the relationship moves to the next level, from marriage to parenthood and beyond. Although chemistry affects nearly every relationship, few people understand it—what initiates it, what destroys it, and what makes it last forever. While genetic makeup and past experiences all play a role, there are many things you can do to influence it. Ultrapractical, How to Create Chemistry with Anyone turns the complex neurological science of attachment into 75 easy communication strategies and unusual techniques that show readers what to do— and what not to do —to find and sustain love. ------------------------------------------------- 9 Ways To Create (and Keep) Chemistry With Anyone By Leil Lowndes： I want to make one thing perfectly clear: you can never have 100 percent control over a person’s chemical reaction to you due to both your brain structures, genotype, phenotype, DNA, and previous experiences—even prenatal ones. But that’s only part of the story. Mother Nature (whose main job here is propagating the species) plays an equally large if not even bigger role in romance. You first work with nature to create certain chemicals in a person’s brain—primarily dopamine and other “feel good” chemicals like dopamine (and, to a certain extent, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine). You’ll spark feelings of excitement when these chemicals flow into their caudate nucleus—known by neuroscientists as their “pleasure” or “reward” center. It’s sort of like inducing a cocaine high. Unfortunately, though, the shelf life of these passionate chemicals is, on the average, 18 months to two years. Don’t let the books that tell you you’ll want to jump each other’s bones until you’re eighty fool you. Even in the best relationships, the type of chemistry between lovers changes over time, especially after they’ve given birth to a couple of new earthlings. You can, however, learn specific techniques to create what are called “bonding chemicals” that make love stay longer and stimulate delicious tides of sex more often. They’re definitely not household names like testosterone and estrogen, and they’re relatively unknown by people outside science-related fields. But these chemicals that replace the early hot ones are far more precious and essential to a fulfilling life than the sizzling kind. Step by step, you’ll learn to create bonding chemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin to keep you together. 1. MEN, FORGET LOOKING COOL—LOOK LIKE YOU’D BE A GOOD DAD Men have a hard time getting it into their heads that the female brain is structurally and chemically different from theirs. Her hormones have always sparked, and will always spark, around men who match Darwin’s “survival of the fittest.” The definition is “best adapted for survival in the immediate, local environment.” Today, however, the “immediate local environment” is dramatically different. Women no longer need a mighty and muscular caveman to bring home the wild boar. Now the crucial survival qualities are intelligence, cooperation, compassion, curiosity, kindness, competitiveness, and an open mind—qualities that spell success in the business world. To express this, don’t dress sexy or like a “cool dude.” Dress like you’re auditioning to be her husband. Think fine quality clothes (women love cashmere and natural fabrics). Think color coordinated (which demonstrates good taste and ability to plan). You’ve heard rumors that women always notice the quality of your shoes? Well, kill the rumor and file it under fact. 2. WOMEN, LOOK FERTILE Ladies, even if a man thinks he doesn’t want kids, Mother Nature programs him to feel a spark when spotting a female who looks like she’d be a good baby factory. Indicators include long shiny hair which signals good health. Your big breasts evidence 37% more estrogen, thus more impregnable (wear a padded bra?). Your smooth skin signals good genes (wear a good makeup base). Your rounded hips demonstrate more room for his baby’s head to grow (what about a waist cincher?). At ovulating time, nature makes you even more desirable to men. You unconsciously swing your hips more. Your eyes get larger, your lips fuller, and your cheeks rosier during the big O days (ovulation, not orgasm). It’s the same throughout the animal kingdom. When in estrus, female apes’ lower cheeks get redder and, in case any guy ape would miss it, she grows a humongous pink butt at target time. Similarly, ladies, your rosy facial cheeks subconsciously signal guys that it’s the best time to “make the shot.” 3. GENTLEMEN, FLOOD HER WITH THE BONDING CHEMICAL The connection between a female’s left brain (logical and analytical) and right brain (intuitive and subjective) is stronger than yours. That means she can put you under a microscope to examine your every expression and every gesture at first sight. Even before you meet, demonstrate certain desirable qualities. She looks to see if you are respected by other men (success) and you’re a caring kind of guy (one who will take care of her someday). So, at a party, let her see you interacting amicably with male friends. Then do something protective like helping a lady take off her coat, or guiding her through the crowd. Moves like these stimulate oxytocin, affectionately dubbed by the neuroscience community as “the cuddling chemical.” This substance invokes feelings of warmth, affection, and desire for closeness. 4. LADIES, BOOST HIS TESTOSTERONE LEVEL A male’s testosterone goes up by 1/3 just speaking to an attractive woman. Can you imagine what happens when he sees more of her body? Ladies, don’t dress cheaply so any old male gets a gander. But, when spotting your target man, smile and pull your blouse slightly to the side, or lift your skirt a little higher to give him an instant testosterone rush. Revealing a garter belt is especially exciting because men prefer stockings to impenetrable panty hose. Make it clear, however, that the performance is just for him. Your provocative move will release dopamine into the “reward center” of his brain, which controls anticipation of pleasure to come. To increase the spark, shoot his testosterone level up even higher by visually scanning his body from his face to just below the below his belt. Then show your approval with a big wide smile. 5. WHAT ABOUT MEN’S PICK-UP LINES? Gentlemen, you’d have better luck finding the Loch Ness monster than finding a one-size-fits-all opening line. According to the “Leil Lowndes Unofficial Survey of Women Sixteen to Sixty,” women preferred the following nine times out of ten, and it has stood the test of time. Trumpet blare please: “Hello, my name is ________. And yours?” The lady will know you’re just trying to meet her but she’ll respect your straightforward honesty. Gentlemen, unless a beautiful woman sounds like she’s hog calling, you probably won’t take special note of her voice—but she will yours. It can sound like beautiful music or microphone feedback to her. Mother Nature programs females to respond viscerally to a deep male voice because it signals more testosterone which, in turn, makes your sperm stronger—which, in turn, makes you a better begetter of babies. 6. WHAT ABOUT WOMEN’S PICK-UP LINES? Ladies, for you, it’s just the opposite. Practice a few. A study called “Reactions to Heterosexual Opening Gambits: Female Selectiveness and Male Responsiveness,” published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, demonstrated beyond any reasonable doubt that pick-up lines work—even outrageous ones. To prove the point, here are some of the scripts researchers directed women to say to men at parties, bars, laundromats, and other incubators of “intergender acquaintanceship,” as they called them. “When I first saw you, I thought about introducing you to my girlfriend, but I’m not that generous.” Others followed their target man with a pen in their hands and asked, “Did you drop this?” They then laughed and confessed, “That was a pretty lamebrain excuse for me to talk to you, wasn’t it?” You ask, “But won’t he think I’m aggressive?” No, because the male ego has an uncanny ability to rewrite history and conveniently disremember who approached whom. His ancient “I’m the pursuer” ego comes into play and dopamine has the ability to scramble signals to the thinking part of his brain called the frontal cortex. 7. THE MOST CHEMISTRY SPARKING FIRST DATE Make it a two part evening. Start off with something exciting to generate electrochemical activity in your date’s brain—a thriller movie or strenuous physical activity. The study “Evidence for Heightened Sexual Attraction under Conditions of High Anxiety,” published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, proved a strong link between love and fear. It gives a dopamine thrill. Mixed with a phenomenon called “excitation transfer,” your date’s brain assumes the thrill came from being with you, not just the activity. Then wind the evening down with something that will encourage bonding and stimulate oxytocin and, to a certain extent, vasopressin, another bonding chemical. A quiet dinner for two in a dimly lit restaurant is ideal because low lighting makes you both seem more attractive. This two-part date sequence should leave no uncomfortable silences because, of course, you’ll discuss how much you both loved the activity. 8. CHEMISTRY TO MAKE YOUR DATE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU Throughout the centuries, our crystal-ball capabilities have evolved with us. Just as DNA experts can tell a lot about a person from a sliver of his toenail, human beings have developed an uncanny subconscious capability to sense whether someone will be fun to be with, fulfill their needs, and match a million other qualities on a very subjective laundry list of longings. Each time you discover a deeply desired quality in the person you’re dating, your pleasure center—which thrives on future rewards—floods with dopamine and mixes with the bonding chemicals. Thus, find ways to show you’re “the one” by demonstrating you have the qualities both sexes seek in a permanent partner. A few examples: You have similar values in life: Find ways to show you share his or her basic beliefs. You are a caring person: Be extra-attentive and loving when the individual you desire isn’t feeling well. You will help fulfill your potential partner’s aspirations: Show support for their goals. You will be faithful: Don’t flirt with others and never refer to any previous infidelity. 9. HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY FOR A LIFETIME OF LOVE Mother Nature plies you with all the chemistry you need to meet, fall in love, and procreate. Sadly, though, studies show the passionate phase of love has an expiration date of a couple of years. From then on, you’re on your own to create the chemistry which keeps you together and in love. After childbirth, Dad’s testosterone drops and Mom feels he’s lost interest. Mom’s oxytocin level goes up 300 percent for her baby and Dad feels left out. Then there’s the dopamine drop because any repeated pleasure—even sex with the same person—doesn’t have the same punch. Here a few ways to get the love chemicals churning. Keep doing dopamine-producing fun and active things together. You’ll spend a lot more on divorce or marriage counseling later than you will for babysitters and movie tickets now. Touch a lot, even the non sexy kind. Accidental or intended, fleeting or abiding, touch stimulates the trust chemical and reinforces togetherness. Encourage him to hold his newborn infant. This stimulates vasopressin, another bonding chemical in males, which has the effect of making him more protective of his family. Laugh a lot together: When your body is laughing, your brain thinks you’re happy and, of course, your mate thinks you’re the reason for the joy. Ladies, give him lots of quickies, even when you don’t feel like it. He’ll interpret it as loving him, and be less apt to look for sex elsewhere. Gentlemen, turnabout is fair foreplay. Make time to give her lots of slow-ies. Words work wonders. Keep saying what your partner craves hearing. Gentlemen, tell her you love her—once a day minimum. Women, let him know you need him (whether you do or not!). Both are basic survival issues inherited from our Cro-Magnon foremothers and fathers. By invoking evolutionary forces and cutting-edge cognitive science discoveries, you can create the spark to bring you together and help you stay together. About the Author Motivated by a debilitating shyness in her youth, Leil has devoted her professional life to helping her audiences become more effective communicators in business, social, and romantic relationships. Previous to her ground-breaking personal development work, she was an elementary school teacher, flight attendant, television spokeswoman for two national products, substitute host on New York's #1 radio talk show, cruise director, and Broadway actress. Today, Leil is the author of ten best-selling books, including, How to Talk to Anyone, How to Instantly Connect with Anyone, Good-bye to Shy, How to Be a People Magnet, and How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.
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